Do you feel ‘out of control’ in some area of your life right now? Perhaps you are no longer steering the direction you move in, or you feel as if you are always waiting to finish something up before it can leave your desk, or you secretly know you are the bottleneck in the process because you must just check it over first…familiar?
Many of us grew up with seemingly valuable beliefs such as ‘If you’re going to do something, do it to the best of your ability’ or you heard people saying ‘if you want something done, do it yourself’. What started out as a good intention landed up with you being a perfectionist!
Here’s the blind spot – perfectionism is all about a desire to control.
And if you read my post on overcoming FEAR, then you know that freedom is on the other side of giving up attempting to control what cannot be controlled…keep breathing, I’m here with you, we’ll walk this together.
Throughout this Mindset Matters series what will best serve you is to think of a specific goal or result you MUST produce this year; so have that in your mind now.
You see perfectionism is unattainable!
Striving for it just leads to frustration and brings up all sorts of childhood feelings of unworthiness. Who needs either of those, right?
What if…you substitute perfectionism with being in pursuit of mastery?
Specifically, always being a student, always curious and interested in continuous improvement. Standing there, opens up the space of acknowledgement and achievement.
Yes take a few deep breaths and let that oxygen in, your body is grateful!
Look at your goal and ask yourself, “What if I were awesome at this?”
Most often it’s more valuable to get onto the court and improve as you go along than to wait on the side-lines to be perfect first, and miss the opportunity to learn as you go. Just like dancing, you cannot do it in theory; you need to get onto the dance floor and dance.
So go on, what action can you take today, that will get you in motion around your goal?
And if you’d like a partner to support you, book a space on an Accelerated Action Afternoon. Go on, you’re worth it and who doesn’t want to get it done, with speed? Reach me on ma***@**************co.za to enquire further.
Your partner in performance,
Mandy
PS. Those in pursuit of mastery, work with a coach, I’d love the opportunity to be yours, so reach out to me and let’s explore it together.
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